An active alcoholic or an addict’s delusions are one of the most frustrating aspects of any conversation with them.
In the mind of your loved one, it is not just his secrets. It is his delusions. A common definition of a delusion is “a false belief or opinion.” The term denial is often used but delusion is a much stronger word. Denial is a sub-set of delusion. The terms “self-lies” and “scripts” are often used.
– I don’t have a problem!
– I can handle this!
– This isn’t affecting anyone except me!
– Next time will be different!
– I’ll go to rehab sometime in the future. I don’t need it yet.
And if you feel extremely frustrated, that is because this is extremely frustrating for everyone who has a loved one who is drinking and using. We can help!